… Violence … Relationship Violence … What is it? If a person is using relationship violence against someone, it means that they have a pattern of intimidating, threatening, or actually physically, emotionally, or sexually abusing another person. They do this in order to maintain power and control over their partner. Relationship violence can also occur between same-gender partners. Is my partner using relationship violence against me? Have you experienced or observed any of the following: You are afraid to disagree with your partner. Your partner's …